20 somethings guide to accepting and loving change

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Get it? Never the same…Listen as you read.

 

It’s been awhile since I have done a 20 somethings guide! If you haven’t checked them out, check out my 20 somethings guide to an anxious mind,  guide to 20 somethings myths, 20 somethings guide to adulting, and a 20 somethings guide to housework. 

 

Prepare for a lot of quotes in this post. As I looked up quotes about change, I related to so many of them, I simply could not pick one.

I have to tell you all something. Change is scary for me.  I mean, I know it’s scary for everyone, but it’s scary for me to the point where I feel like I let it dictate some of my life and my decisions and that is not okay. The good thing is that I realized that I was doing that and I took action to change it.

It’s all part of growing up, right?

I just made a scary, but necessary change in my own life. I have gone part time at my current stable job to pursue working at an animal hospital part time as well.
(Doing both part time to be working full time) It may not sound like much to some people, but to me it was and is a proud moment. Working with animals is something I have been pursuing for awhile now and I realized I am not going to get any closer to that dream where I was, although my current job is stable and I do enjoy it. The benefits are great, the pay is okay, and I have great friends there. I will be there 3 years this August and knowing me, I could be there another 5, easily.

There is nothing wrong with wanting stability and this is really important to me as well. But there is something wrong with settling and being too scared to pursue anything else, simply because you are comfortable.

With this comes some compromises, and scariness, and I am still not sure this is the angle of working with animals I want to pursue exactly- but that’s okay.

So I thought maybe if I can help even one person make these scary, but unnecessary changes to their life, then I have done okay.

 

1.) Scary is good.

 

You know these butterflies? Both the scary and the exciting ones, I think we should pursue them more. I think they are intertwined and you often can’t have one without the other…

 

2.) Get out of your way

 

How often do we hold ourselves back from what we want to try because of our fear? I think most of our fears of change come from the possibility of failure. My therapist always asks me, “what is the worst case scenario?” Here’s a hint: 9/10 of the times my “worst” case scenario is really not as bad when I say it out loud as it sounds in my own mind.

 

 3.) Regret is probably worse than any scary change you make. Personally, I would rather not learn this lesson too late. 

 

 

4.)  We are built to adapt. 

 

 

Changing up our routine awakens our souls and can teach us so much about ourselves that we never knew, especially about our capabilities and strength.

 

5.)  Change is necessary to our growth. If something does not work out, you can always shift again…change as many times as you need to.

I always loved this quote from the Curious Case of Benjamin Button movie:

“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.”

― Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button Screenplay

 

Is there something you are scared to change right now or a scary change you have recently overcome?

2016 triumphs; 2017 goals

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I hope you all had a safe and happy New Years filled with those you love and plenty of goals you promise to keep.  ; )

We started off the holiday with some snow tubing with Frankie’s family and later on that night a lovely evening of a double date complete with snow, pecan pie, and champagne at midnight…

 

 

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I broke out sparkly orange tights for NYE because you can never be sparkly or glittery enough on this night! 

 

So while I think it’s important to create new resolutions or goals for the new year, I almost think it is even more important to ourselves to realize our triumphs of the year behind us.

We are notoriously hard on ourselves as a society and it’s really sad.

We have to acknowledge our triumphs and I wanted to share with you my 2016 triumphs so maybe you will be inspired to pat yourself on the back, too!

 

2016 triumphs:

 

Being healthy!

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I have successfully kept my promise to myself and have gone to the gym consistently for about a year and a half along with yoga once a week, but only recently have actually started seeing real results! I’m really proud of myself for this, for eating healthy, and for trying new classes like piyo and spin. Spin is what I have actually seen results from and have kept up with for quite a few months now- I especially like it because it’s an intense cardio workout that you can sit down the whole time if you wish, LOL. About 5 minutes into the class I am regretting my decision to sign up and dreaming of my wine and the couch, but I push through!

 

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Keeping up with this blog. 

This past August was my 1 year blogiversary and the victory of also actually keeping up with something consistently! I get distracted a lot and tend to want to try so many things, that often they fall to the wayside. But this blog has become a lot more to me than I imagined and inspired me to be more positive, do more, etc! It has become a journal for me, even writing about my triumphs right now is giving me perspective for all that I have done this past year- let’s face it, writing things down and seeing it in front of you makes it real. And is really therapeutic!

 

 

 

 My first sponsored blog post! 

 

I basically love Oriental Trading and they gave me my first sponsored post-on one of my favorite things ever, Halloween decor. 

They even sent me a Christmas card thanking me for being a brand ambassador and saying they enjoyed working with me- simply a pleasure to work with and I feel honored! It also inspired me to reach out to more brands in the future.

 

 

Making steps towards my dreams. 

I continued volunteering for the SPCA, (although in 2017 I want to walk way more doggies) explored schooling, and completed an internship at the animal sanctuary of my dreams. I really really want to work in the animal welfare field and a sanctuary would be perfect. I explored and took classes in the Vet Tech program, went back and forth and still do, but I think I want to focus on the animal welfare and nonprofit side of things. I also realized I think I want a job where I can be a bit creative. I currently work for a nonprofit and it is so flexible, rewarding, and I have never been treated better in a job before. Right now I am exploring a graduate non profit administration program and will probably try a class to see if I like it…. to be continued! I know what I want, the getting there is a bit confusing…but all in all, proud of myself for making the steps.

Remember my 17 quotes for 2017 post? Well, I am tired….but this quote holds so much truth. Remember to rest.

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Without goals, we would not have triumphs? Am I right? Alas…. goals for 2017.

 

2017 goals:

 

Be more consistent with my blog…

 

While it’s great that I have kept up with my blog so well (triumph!), my consistency is lacking. I am not going to lie, the holidays had me slacking quite a bit, but there were times when I was in school and I will be in school again this coming semester, and it’s all about balance, right? I want to always improve my ability to balance everything and in turn, better this blog.

The thing is, I know this blog could be more amazing if I kept up on it and did more bloggy outreach kind of things. This is a goal! I want to maintain my blog connections better and keep up on everyone else’s blogging life, as well. Bloggers write about their lives but cannot be self absorbed to succeed in this world of blog…isn’t it ironic?

 

 

Continue trying new things…

 

This year I really was proud of myself for getting out of my comfort zone and trying new things- 2017 has goals for me to try silks, pole dancing classes, and hip hop classes. To name a few!  Along with this, I want to hike more unknown terrain, literally. Last summer any time off I spent at the lake, my favorite place in the world. But because of this, I also didn’t venture out as much to new areas to explore…this spring/summer I want to find new places to explore!

 

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Save, save, save…

 

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This goal is kind of 4 goals wrapped in 1-

This year I really want to travel, move out on my own, and take classes for school… These things require a lot of money! So it’s time to save.

If I take a graduate class it is over 1k plus books. It’s insane. Thank God for payment plans is all I can say…

I am really good at selling things I no longer wear on Ebay. I fell off of it for a bit but I think it is time to jump back on that! You can make such good money while clearing out your clutter  and if you have enough of an Ebay following and good rating, people trust to buy from you and are more likely to do so. And now that I have my Canon Rebel, it’s easier to take good shots.

Be happy, healthy, and more present.

 

More meditation, more tea, less anxiety. Please, 2017?

I have some smaller goals too like read more books and to learn the ukelele (finally) but I’m trying to focus on the big picture here….

 

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