A new year’s letter to the universe…

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Dear last year,

 

You were really good to me. You showed me more of who I am, parts of me that I didn’t even know existed.

You showed me disappointments, in the form of losing houses we fell in love with and a career I thought was a dream. You showed me that you can do everything and anything for someone you work for (or this can be applied to a lot of things in life) but that in the end, sometimes things are just too good to be true for a reason. Sometimes you need to walk away when you realize that being in an environment where your absolute best is never good enough is detrimental to your mental health, happiness, and well being.

This year taught me to run like Forest Gump in those situations. Run at the first sign of a red flag. Your instincts are instilled in you for a reason…use them.

 

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But with these, you lead the way for me to even better paths. You made me aware of a strength I didn’t know I had when it comes to standing up for myself and knowing what I want and deserve.

Within you, 2018, I learned that it’s okay to just….need time. To decompress after these disappointments and disappear for awhile, if you need to.

I learned that “FOMO,” or “fear of missing out” is basically all in your head and I have gotten insanely good at appreciating what I have rather than comparing to others. We all feel bad with social media but I think it’s more about how you look at things. Like, seeing someone go on a beautiful vacation and feeling happy for them and also being like “that’s great and I would love to go there someday too- but after we buy our house! Because I have exciting things coming my way that are more important right now than traveling.” I also know myself well enough now to look at someone’s photos of being out and filtering my own thoughts-like thinking, wait, do I even want to be doing that right now? Actually no, I’m super happy being on my couch watching this movie with wine.

I learned that the hustle is real and you can damn well get anything that you want if you work hard enough. This means you don’t always listen to people who tell you that there’s no way you can travel while you are not working for 2 months (yup and I never did put up my Canada travel post- but I will!) or that you can’t possibly pay your bills through selling on Poshmark?! Watch me, yo.

 

 

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Dear new year,

Hey girl…heyyyyyy.

 

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I have to say, you are starting off with a bang!

 

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Please continue to teach me valuable lessons.

Please bring me a house I love with enough space for a chicken, pygmy goat, and another pupper. (or 2…?)

Please help me with discipline and consistency. This goes with all things: bullet journaling, blogging, Poshmark, gym,yoga, etc. 

Please allow me to finally actually learn the ukulele or guitar. (I see a theme here- again, consistency and discipline?!)

Please help me to continue stepping even further outside of my comfort zone.

 

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Lessons from my Poshmark fall wardrobe

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I have been through some life changes since my last blog post… more to come on that later. I will have a lot more time to blog (at least for now) and plan on getting back into the weekly blog swing of things. 

It’s fall! 

 

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My absolute favorite time of the year to blog about all things fashion related. 

Whether it’s a Fall Fashion Inspiration post, a Spooky shoot, I really love doing these. 

This time I thought I would do something a little different. 

While going through my photo shoot photos from the other night, I realized that our clothes can kind of….teach us something. 

 

We wear what we feel and we wear our hearts on our sleeves. 

 

In the mornings, we go through our closets and carefully choose how we want to portray to others that day, we wear Black to certain occasions, our friend tells us “wow, you have a lot of Black clothes!” while going through your closet-while you may have never noticed before. 

We speak as silently, or as loudly, as we want to the world with what we clothe our bodies with. 

 

Here are some lessons from my Poshmark fall wardrobe, which you can find here:

 

Be as humbly yourself as possible, but with attitude.

 

 

It’s perfectly okay to be quiet- if that’s who you are (me.) 

But never, ever, ever let people tell you who you should be, walk all over you, treat you less than you deserve. 

Remain yourself, but know when to step outside of this comfort zone when it comes to protecting your own values. 

Damn straight.

 

Keep it simple.

 

 

This means taking time to sit with yourself and learn patience through your process. 

Wake up in the morning, wipe the sleepy from your eyes and look up at the sun and how it has risen for you ; the way in which it has blessed and given you another minute, another hour, another day. 

For a minute quickly becomes days and months and years and if we don’t take the time to sit with it, really notice it and breathe it in, it will evaporate right before us.

 

And on it goes…keep it simple. 

 

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Daydream as often as you like.

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Play dress up with your life and try on as many varieties as you like.

Our choices were not meant to be taken so seriously… 

Do your very best and the universe will send rewards and gratification your way.

 

It’s okay to dress like Fiona and Frank from Shameless.

In fact, I encourage it. 

 

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But don’t be too much of a Frank…. #Shameless

 

The Things My Papa Taught Me

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This was one of the hardest few days of my life. My papa, Christopher McDonagh, passed away on Monday night after a hell of a fight of 10 years with multiple lung illnesses. I have cried all of my tears out for the rest of my life- I am pretty sure of that. I sit here crying again while writing this post.

Papa was one of my favorite people ever in this whole world full of billions of people. I just went searching in my email for more pictures and found emails from him I never answered- greeting cards he sent me for every holiday, even the little ones, like Valentines Day. Papa was that kind of guy- he just wanted to let you know he loved you and was thinking of you.

Everyone that met my papa described him as an amazing guy, the best gentlemen you will ever meet, and just a kind hearted soul. Those were all true and so much more. Papa was the kind of man who taught you so much along the way without even trying.

 

I thought I would write some life lessons that I learned from my papa who really knew how to live life like no one else. 

 

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You can have endless dreams in life and re-invent yourself as many times as you want. 

 

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My papa served in the US Army, was a Good Humor man, UPS driver, Carpenter, Alaskan Pipeline worker, father, husband, grandfather, brother, Irish immigrant and U.S. citizen, and many other things I’m sure we never even knew. Everything he did he did it with pride and purpose.

 

“Slow down, you have more time than you think.”

 

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This is actually something he told my sister but when she told me it really stuck with me through him struggling and after his passing. When she asked for life advice he simply stated this. I can’t really think of better advice…

 

Family is by far the most important thing in life.

 

 

Papa left his family for 3 years to go work on the Alaskan Pipeline when times were tough and they really needed money. He always made sure to do things with us to keep us busy and having fun when we were little and would spend summers at nana and papa’s house. Papa would always lend a listening ear when you needed or a comforting word of advice.

 

Love is not always easy but it is so worth it.

 

 

 

Life is the most precious thing to us and it is damn worth fighting for.

 

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Papa’s fight was 10 years long and he fought so hard in the most admirable way.

We love you so much papa and thank you for giving us so much wisdom. Please watch over us and continue to teach us even up there.

 

XOXOX

 

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